Years ago I was taking my cousins little boy Christopher to see a movie, he was about 8 years old at the time and was a funny kid so our conversation in the car was really fun.

I asked Chris a question that will lead into our blog.  I asked him “how old will you be when you know everything you will need to know to be an adult” Chris thought about it for a little then said in an adult like voice “About 14”!

I still laugh about that and that little boy is now a man living in North Carolina and is part of the podcast we do called Turnbuckle trash.    He is a lot older than 14 now so I guess he knows everything about being an adult.


I will fill you in on the time I felt like an adult later but first.

A new survey was released this week and found the average guy feels like an adult at age 26, and for women it’s 23.

The survey asked what made them realize they were an adult

  1. Having a budget.
  2. Buying a house.
  3. Doing your own taxes.
  4. Working on your credit score.
  5. Investing in a 401k.

The rest of the top ten are doing your own laundry . . . regular doctor visits . . . using a list at the grocery store . . . cooking dinner most nights . . . and a tie between watching the news, and changing your bed sheets regularly.

They also looked at the top KIDS’ FOODS we can’t stop eating as adults.  61% of us have had pizza in the last month . . . 50% have had spaghetti . . . 40% have had a hot dog . . . 35% have had macaroni-and-cheese . . . and 35% have had chicken nuggets.

And the most quote-unquote “ADULT” foods you can have in your kitchen are vegetables . . . fruit . . . coffee . . . milk . . . meat . . . chicken . . . baking ingredients . . . fish . . . frozen food . . . and oatmeal.

You know being an adult is not fun sometimes.  Recently I was talking to a young man I have known since he was born, he just turned 16 and as most 16 year olds do he  was asking to be treated like an adult.  OK then he made a statement that his Dad and I laughed out loud at.  He said “I will be glad when I am grown up and can do what I want and when I want”   We reminded him that as adult you have added pressure to you time.  There is so many things that take away from the scant 24 hours in a day that we sometimes sacrifice things we want to do for things we have to do.   This young man who is a great young man will learn like I did.


So when was the first time I felt like an adult?  Well I was at Ricks College in my third year of a two year school (long story).  I was working full time and going to school.  Because of the Teton Flood housing was tight in Rexburg.  So some friends and I rented a nice home in St. Anthony and split the rent.  Things were going great, no roommate problems but there was one huge problem.  Ricks College.

At the time to be able to go to school you had to live in approved housing, which my nice rented house in St Anthony was not.

Now let me add here that I understand why the school insisted on “Approved Housing”  Most of the students were young and from out of town and this was a way to assure parents that their children were living in a safe environment.

The head of off campus housing found out about my living arrangements and was not happy.   Let’s just say that over the years he and I had a rocky relationship at best.  I went to his office and was told that I could not live in St Anthony in non-approved housing and if I didn’t move into approved housing that he would call my Mother and kick me out of school!


I remember looking this man and saying “You mean to tell me, that I can’t live where I chose when I am working full time and paying for everything in my life with my own money and you are going to tell on me to my MOMMY?

At that moment in time I felt like I was a grown up, A man, no longer a boy.

And he was going to call my MOMMY?

I made the decision to that my education was more important than where I lived and moved into ‘APPROVED HOUSING” A house near campus known as “Cockroach Manner”   It lived up to its name.  What a hole.

Several months later I was on campus and ran into the director of off campus housing and we had a very adult conversation where no voices were raised but I expressed my disappointment and my shock that this was approved housing.  He listened like an adult and we left each other with a handshake but not a smile.